Friday, April 4, 2014

An Apology Is Great and All....But....

The sports world erupted this week over the fact that the second baseman for the Mets, Daniel Murphy, missed opening day and one additional game to be with his wife as she gave birth to their first child.

Actually, no one was really upset about that. Most reasonable people, regardless of their chosen profession, hold the birth of their children somewhere above whatever they were supposed to do at work that day.

Not everyone thought so, though, and that's where the controversy came in.

Boomer Esiason, former NFL quarterback, husband and father of several kids including one with cystic fibrosis, has a radio show these days. He took it upon himself to proclaim from behind his shiny microphone that Daniel screwed up big time. That his job is more important. That the game is more important. As if discussing him missing the game wasn't enough, Boomer had to take it one step further and say that Daniel's wife should have scheduled a c-section prior to opening day so that her husband could get to the field.

The internet exploded.

Meanwhile, Daniel was busy with his wife and child...where he should have been. He hasn't given much energy to the controversy, and for that I give him a high five. Truly. He knows that some rude comments and the ensuing arguments about them are far less important than what he has going on in real life right now, namely the fact that he has a newborn and a game to play.

Of course Boomer apologized because that's what he was supposed to do. The internet ate him for lunch. He came off looking like a misogynistic asshole with no sense of real life priorities. People don't generally just let that go.

Mostly though, he probably got reamed by his producer and his agent.

I'm sure he was also contacted by every agency with a pony in the healthy birth race. His suggestion that a c-section should be scheduled for the convenience of the father when not medically indicated is asinine.

So he apologized.


People make mistakes, people say stupid things. It happens all the time, even here from time to time. The trouble lies in this belief that people with media platforms can spout off whatever rude comments they want, then just issue some scripted retraction or half-hearted (but well worded) apology after the fact and it's all supposed to magically be better.

Saying sorry doesn't fix anything. It doesn't erase what happened.

Boomer, you made this beautiful moment between this man and his wife and their child into a media circus. You twisted it into some talking point and implied that a game should be more important than fatherhood. You were wrong. Period.

The fact that you didn't apologize immediately....more meh.

I guess I just have higher standards.

I think you are supposed to consider the ramifications of what you say before you say it.

I think that having a platform with an audience requires more discretion.

I think you are supposed to be aware of the effect that your words will have on other people.

I think that if you are a sports commentator, you don't get to tell a woman jack shit about her body.

You should probably make sure you never do that again, Boomer.



  1. I would have done anything to schedule a c section or induce the birth of my son. That means his daddy could have met him and held him while he was alive. My doctor said it wasn't a good idea. Mys husband wasn't playing baseball. He was defending our country. My husband only was there for 3 of his 5 boys' birth thanks to uncle Sam


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