Day 26 ~
"Listen, smile, agree, and then do whatever the fuck you were gonna do anyway"
~ Robert Downey, Jr.
I quoted Ironman yesterday, so this was the next logical step, right?
Oh, this man. I don't think he ages. Or he made some deal with the devil that grants him eternal youth in exchange for whatever he traded it in for. He is....just...well...awesome.
I love the guy for a few reasons. I loved him when he was the jerk harassing Gary and Wyatt in Weird Science and when he was Charlie in Chaplin, but it wasn't really until he started publicly struggling with addiction that I began to pay more attention to him than the rest of the brat pack.
Here he was, this wildly successful guy who had lived his entire life in the spotlight, and he was going public with the fact that he had a drug problem. I remember watching him during this time when he was on Ally McBeal and rooting for him, cringing when he relapsed, celebrating when he stayed sober. He finally kicked it for good and the world rejoiced....because goddamn he is a fantastic actor.
This quote is from an interview he did on Inside the Actor's Studio in 2006, years before he started hitting blockbuster numbers in the theaters. He was sober, he was rebuilding his career. His first marriage had fallen apart but he was happily remarried. He was in a good place, maybe for the first time in his life.
That's what makes this quote so fantastic. It can really only be appreciated, I think, when you've been to hell and back a few times. Then you get it. You see what is important. You understand.
As someone who had to do it all in the spotlight, for him the journey was far more complicated by the microscope staring at him all the time, picking apart everything about him.
He learned in that time to work a crowd, he had to.
He learned to play to the masses, to quiet the people, to silence the critics...but live his life exactly as he wanted to anyhow. Which is what being a more self-realized person is about, anyway, if we are being honest.
How much of what you do is shaped by what other people might think?How much of what any of us do is shaped that way? Probably too much.
He'd tell you to stop living like that.
So would I.
You should listen to us. We know stuff.
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