Tuesday, January 21, 2014

30 Days of Quotes About Whatever ~ Day 21 ~ Assholes

Day 21 ~

Before you diagnose yourself with depression or low self-esteem, first make sure that you are not, in fact, just surrounded by assholes.

- Steve Winterburn


Hi there. We're changing things up here. I was getting annoyed by the life quotes on GoodReads because they had reached the point of repetition, so I'm going to spend the last part of this challenge doing something a little different every day. 

This quote, sent to me by a friend. She thought this would be a great addition to the challenge, and I agreed. 

This is my blog and I can change my mind, right?  Besides which, I've lived this quote a few times.

First though, let's talk about the guy who said it.

This quote is quite frequently falsely attributed to William Gibson, which would be very interesting if it was his since he's one of the godfathers of steampunk. He has said on numerous occasions that it isn't though.

Steve Winterburn said it. He's a humorist who is best known for his work in the Twittersphere.

On to the quote.

We live in interesting times. There is still a lot of stigma when it comes to mental illness in general, very real stigma that affects those who live with it, and yet there is this simultaneous societal obsession with self-diagnosis. 

You know these people, the ones who google every symptom they ever have. The ones who declare that loving organization must make them have OCD, that because they are sad that their dog died they must be depressed, that because they got nervous before something big happened they must have anxiety. 

Stop that.

Really. Those of us who live with this stuff for real need you to stop.

It makes people take us less seriously. It makes light of what it is really like to live with these conditions. 

And I digress.

The quote itself is right on. I speak that truth from the wonder of living it. When you've been through some of the things I have been, when every time you turn around, someone else is betraying you, failing you, lying to you, it's hell. 

I've been there. For a long time while I was in that place, I tried to rationalize it. A long, long time. I thought that there had to be something wrong with me, that it wasn't possible that there could be this many things wrong. That I was the crazy one.

Some of them helped convince me that I was.

Then, one day it was all revealed for what it was. It wasn't me. It was never me. I was collateral damage, the one hurt because of the things they were doing that really didn't have much to do with me at all.

I was, in fact, just surrounded by assholes. 

Let me tell you, it was a glorious moment when I finally realized it.

When you've thought you were the crazy one, it's freeing, for sure.

Life is a whole lot better now.

3 comments:

  1. You are a glorious non-asshole. xo

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  2. I wrote about this today, but in a different context.

    You are the opposite of an a-hole. always.

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  3. I was collateral damage, the one hurt because of the things they were doing that really didn't have much to do with me at all. I was, in fact, just surrounded by assholes. Let me tell you, it was a glorious moment when I finally realized it. When you've thought you were the crazy one, it's freeing, for sure. Life is a whole lot better now.

    Great post and life will be better for you know and in the future which will also enhance your childrens' lives. No more Domino effect.

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