Tuesday, August 27, 2013

Things That Piss Me Off Tuesday - the twerking nerd bashers who lack empathy edition

Miley and all the other stuff that happened at the VMAs that no one is talking about
By now you likely have seen the videos of her twerking in plastic undies and rubbing herself with a giant foam finger while giant stuffed animals watched. If you haven't seen the video of the actual performance, you've probably seen all the memes floating around about it. They range from the laugh out loud funny ones (i.e. the Robin Thicke/Beetlejuice one made me pee a little) to the funny, but wrong ones (the Smith family wasn't making faces because of her....and no one seems to realize that the entire family is always making faces anyway, so it's hard to speculate what the reason may ever be) to the just plain wrong ones (you know you've seen the chicken butt one and no, I'm not putting it here).

I have a few things to say about this. Ready? Imma do this rapid fire style so it doesn't hog my whole TTPMOT post because I have other stuff to rant about too.

- She is an entertainer who makes money from publicity, and everyone was talking about her, regardless of the reason. I don't think she's nearly as naive or manipulated as anyone thinks...in fact, I think she's actually kind of a genius because she's figured out how to keep her career going just on shock value. Love her or hate her, everyone is talking about her. Which was the point.

- She is actually one of the more responsible entertainers in her age group. Rhianna is famous because her boyfriend beat her up. Taylor Swift has dated half of Hollywood and told one of her exes to STFU during the awards show. Ke$ha is...well, Ke$ha. Miley, on the other hand, has been in a stable relationship with a nice guy for a while now. She's taken her career by the balls (maybe too literally), and completely changed her image. Yeah she smokes pot and drinks...but so do a whole hell of a lot of 20 year olds in the world. If you didn't do anything stupid and impulsive when you were 20, I'm a little bit sad for you. That's part of growing up. She just has to do it where everyone can see.

- Just because someone is famous doesn't mean they are a role model, or that they should be considered such. Besides which...do any of the people claiming she should be even understand the premise of the show that made her famous? Hannah Montana was all about lies and deception, about manipulating situations to make her famous.

- While everyone is focused on this poor lost girl, no one seems to care about the very married man twice her age dry humping her on the stage. If one outrages people, both should. (Neither outraged me, incidentally....I love me some #thicke) Talk about double standards...

- If all the people in the world who spent hours fighting online about her dedicated that energy to real things, like income equality, like equal rights, like making our neighborhoods safer, like volunteering to help others...imagine what the world could be like. Nah, we'll stay home and troll total strangers from behind a computer. Yep, that's a more productive use of our time.

- A WHOLE BUNCH OF AWESOME THINGS happened on the VMAs, most of which were not even mentioned by the people obsessed with Miley's foam finger. Lady Gaga has a smoking hot ass. For that, I stand and give applause, applause, applause. Seriously. Macklemore and Ryan Lewis won an award for the most socially important song of the year. And Justin Timberlake proved why he's fantasy island worthy. He even got the rest of *Nsync back on the stage with him for a minute. Hot damn. That man.

#Batfleck and what it means for nerds everywhere
Yeah, Ben Affleck is the new Batman. I'm still not convinced this will work, but I'm not about to throw a nerd fit.

Let's face it.

I'm DC's bitch, and I'll go see it no matter who gets cast because I just will.

Shut up and take my money.

Anyhow. The nerdiverse exploded when the news hit and almost as quickly as the nerds ranted, the nerd bashers showed up in all their glory....some even going so far as to say that fanboys should get girlfriends.

Two things.

One, WTF does that mean for me, if all anyone cares about is the fanboy reaction? What about the fangirls??? I guess we need girlfriends too. Hmmmm...

Two, I don't remember anyone telling sports fans to get a girlfriend because they celebrated about the Super Bowl or NCAA tournament or when the Premiere League started getting aired regularly here. (Oh, snap...bet you didn't see that one coming. You see...I'm a FAN of geekdom and sports. And I have boobs. No wonder society doesn't know what to do with me...)

If you haven't read my rant about nerd bashing before, you should.

Fandom is fandom is fandom. It wears football jerseys and it wears chainmail. Sometimes it wears both...and you really shouldn't fuck with that guy, even if he doesn't have a girlfriend.

Criminal kids, crappy parents and the death of empathy
In the past few weeks, there have been some horrible news stories about kids killing people just for the hell of it.

There was this one in Florida, where two teenagers thought it would be fun to kill people.  Then there was the case of the Australian baseball player killed because some teenagers were bored and had nothing else to do. Or the teenagers who beat a WWII vet to death in Washington.

What the hell is wrong with us????

I have an answer, though most people tend not to like it very much. I think that we, collectively, just don't give a shit about anyone else anymore. We are an instant gratification society. We don't want to work hard, we believe we are entitled to things just because we exist. We want things to make us happy, we seek approval for the most menial accomplishments. We tell kids from the time they are born that they are winners because we don't want things to be too hard for them. We entertain them constantly. We don't help others, we just worry about ourselves.

Empathy is dying.

The me, me, me, me society is churning out an entire generation of kids who just don't know how to care about other people.

When kids get in trouble these days, the parents are often the ones questioning the teachers or the school or the police or the legal system....when they should be forcing their children to be accountable. Instead of teaching responsibility, they explain it away, allow excuses to justify bad choices.

A great many opinion articles have come out this week about it, and I encourage everyone to read them with an open mind, and to take the words to heart. It isn't just our children who could be affected here, it's all of us.

We must teach kids to care about other people. We must hold them accountable. We must relearn empathy and teach it to them.

We must.

Or we're screwed.


  1. Brilliant. As. Always.

    Empathy dies a little bit as we skewer Miley but leave blurred lines alone. It dies a little as we sit on our pompous "perfect lives" ass and shake our foam finger the "right" way.

    Why give her what she wants when there are so many other ways to use that energy. Maybe then she'll get it.

  2. Bravo! You pretty much nailed a lot of what I'd say (except for the whole Miley thing....that child needs a hug or something. lol).

  3. For serious, woman. Were you hiding in our closet last night while the hubs and I had this convo? Almost verbatim. ESPECIALLY the last part - lack of empathy and parents making excuses. You're freaking fabulous. And, for the record - I think chainmail is badass. ;)

  4. I don't even know where to start. I have so much to say about all of this.

    You go with your DC bitch self, that asshole will get no money out of my pocket. Yes, Nerd Rage. GRRRRRRRR

    Also? My suitor is a nerd, and I'm a nerd, and we nerd it up together, what does that make us?

    I'm not touching the killing. It pisses me off.

    -The Insomniacs Dream

  5. I've been like an ostrich with my head in the sand lately. I don't know what Miley did. I've seen a few photos float by. I am tempted to Google it because I love Beetle Juice.

    Batman...I'll see it to. It's Batman.

    Kids killing people? I am putting my head back in the sand right now. People suck.


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