Wednesday, March 13, 2013

The Easter Festivus

What I'm thinking about this morning is way too profound and deep, too thought provoking and life altering.  About how much life can change in an instant, and how rarely we are ever in control of those moments.  Big stuff.

Be grateful that someone gave me a topic to write about already, and I'm not writing about any of that nonsense.

My friend Ginger over at Spicey Mom wants me to take on Easter, which could very well be her least favorite holiday...which makes sense if you know that she's an atheist.

Her beef with the holiday is that, like everything else it seems these days, it gets bigger and bigger, more and more commercialized, filled with more expectations and demands every year.

Gone are the days when the "bunny" drops off a modest basket with a few bucks worth of candy and calls it good. Now, baskets are huge and toy filled, kids make requests for what they want, and start asking to go see the bunny to make good with the big guy.

Aren't baskets supposed to only have actual
eggs in them anyway, if we're being technical?
If the bunny has failed to meet expectations, you're sure to hear about it within a few days after the kids go back to school, because there is some kid who inevitably got a bike or a scooter or an actual rabbit for Easter.

Your kid is pissed, wonders why they didn't get anything cool like their friends did from the bunny, ponders the unfairness of the magic world of the seasonal gift-givers.  As a parent, you just feel like you're a failure.  Like no matter what you do, it's not going to be good enough.  Some other parent is always going to get their kid something more awesome.

Here's my take on it.


Stop caring.


I've never worried too much about what other people get their kids, whether it's Christmas, birthdays or random Tuesdays.  My children's basic needs are met, they are well fed, there is a roof over their head, and they've acquired enough crap already to basically be hoarders.  If they don't get a basket full of stuff they're only going to play with for five minutes, it's no one's loss and it saves me money.

Besides, I've never done the traditional baskets.  I'm cheap and practical, and my kids know that.

I get them a seasonal toy like sidewalk chalk or a butterfly net or a kite, but most of what is in the basket is even more practical.  Like a new swimsuit and a pair of sandals, which they get every year.

Don't worry, I buy them a package of Peeps and a chocolate bunny too.  They aren't completely deprived, but they'll get even less candy this year than usual because of the little boy and his sugar issues.

Sometimes we go see the bunny, some years we don't.  I happen to think a six foot tall rabbit is terrifying, and don't blame the kids when they hesitate.

Occasionally, the kids will mention something about someone getting something better than they did, and I just tell them that life's not fair.  Because it's not.

I'm not going to try and compete with other parents.  Even if I wanted to, I don't have the financial means to do it.


Because life's not fair.

^^^see what I just did right there?

I tend to think that we aren't doing anyone any favors by perpetuating the idea of keeping up with the Joneses, even when the Joneses are wearing bunny ears and poofy tails.

St. Patrick's Day is a bigger deal around here anyway.

What about you?  Is Easter a big deal for you?  Do you celebrate only the religious aspects, or does the bunny come to visit?


  1. Eff Easter and keeping up with the Joneses. My kids get an egg hunt and a small basket with some candy and small toys like bubbles and other silly stuff.
    I also celebrate Ostara (the vernal equinox) instead of Easter, since Easter is a bunch of nonsense.

  2. I'm with you. I never feel pressured by what others are doing for holidays. I do what's fun for us...scattered plastic eggs on the lawn...a few jelly beans...some pretty hard boiled eggs...and hope that spring is really here to stay ;) It's about our own tradition...not buying him a shiny new bike...The Easter Bunny will never be that cool...

  3. wait... let me channel my best Cher voice, ready??? SNAP OUTTA IT!

    I never cared either, and Myles grew up knowing life wasn't fair. He's 25 now and survived it! And he's even getting a basket this year! lol yeah, we do things like that forever! The only "rule" we had, was the Green Eggs have $ in them, now, Im talking 50 cents or a dollar when the kids were growing up (not $100!) and some years the bunny only had 1 green egg in his basket, other years there were 5 of them OH BOY! Some years we saw the Bunny (I think I have 2 pictures of this maybe...) most years we didnt, it just wasn't a "thing"
    For us, not being a particularly churchy group, much to the dismay of my poor Grama, we as a family all (every year) gather at my Aunts house in Simi and enjoy an early dinner, lots of good food, family and whatever sport my Uncle insists on watching. There may or may not be a pick up basketball game out front or football game at the park. That's it, and that's enough!

  4. Well said. When they are little, they are not competitive and when they are older? Yes, time to learn that life is not fair. Be grateful for whatever YOU have.

  5. I like Easter. Maybe because where we live, it's pretty brown and I love all the color and newness of spring (I know -- SO unlike me). But it's a little funny since I'm an atheist. Of course, it's not like we're running around singing songs about Jesus or anything.

    I think the reason I go big on any holiday is because it's all going to be over soon. They aren't going to care or think it's magical. But that's just me. Kind of sappy that way.


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