Alright, alright, alright.
I try to suppress it, but sometimes I just can't fight the overwhelming urge I have to say what I am really thinking. I try to be all politically correct and unoffensive to everyone, but there are many problems with that. First of all, it's just not me. And it's way boring to be so safe and middle of the road.
Every so often I climb up on my soapbox and let it fly.
Today's one of them days.
So I'll warn you all in advance in case I offend anyone with my opinions. Truth is, they're mine. And while I'm a lot of things, I'm not terribly apologetic about things like this.
I've spent a lot of time lately in a place that is perceived to be liberal. Leftist. Progressive.
Except it isn't.
At least on one issue.
I'm all in favor of it. 100% unabashedly in favor of it. I'm not one of those fence sitting moderate liberals who will say things like they can have a civil union, we just won't call it marriage. Let them have it all.
There are so many reasons why I am in favor of it. So, so many. Not the least of which is that fact that marriage isn't something that us straight people can have claimed perfection on. Really, the divorce rate is hovering around 50%....we so don't have it figured out.
I don't understand why people care so much about what other people do with their lives. A lot of people always go to the explanation that it will confuse children, teach them to be gay and so on. Um, not so much. There are families at school with gay parents. My kids just know that another kid has two moms or two dads. It's never been an issue. It isn't a big deal for the kids. It's a big deal for the parents.
Marriage isn't marriage without calling it marriage. Anything less is not the same. A civil union is not the same. A contract is not the same.
Then there is the whole all men are created equal thing. Which I happen to believe to be the quintessential line in our American history, the one that we should hold in highest esteem and should strive to reach. It should be the goal of our society to emulate that one phrase.
Throw in the fact that being straight or gay is what it is. You are either gay or straight. Period. You don't wake up one day and decide to be gay. You don't watch a movie and decide to be gay. You don't touch a gay person and become gay. So on and so forth. There may be a very limited number of circumstances which could shape adult sexuality, but they do not explain the vast majority of sexual orientations.
Some may suppress their true sexuality, live in denial of it, try to pretend. I knew a man who did that well into his 70's. He had a wife and five children and countless grandchildren before he finally stopped living a lie. He became who he really was.
I know that a lot of my feelings on this are a direct result of the experiences I have had in my life. The people I've known. The things I have seen.
I've had friends I knew were gay since we were kids. I promise you it isn't something that someone chooses as an adult.
I worked many years for an AIDS clinic. I saw countless men, disowned and discarded by their families, thrown aside. Most lost contact long before they were diagnosed, back when they came out to their families. I saw some of those men in their last days, since I helped so many of them write their wills and their medical directives. And I can't tell you how many of them wished and hoped for one last chance to see their father, their mother, their brother. Heartbreaking. The only word for it.
No human being should ever be made to feel that way. Ever.
The thing that disturbs me the most about the way those men were and probably still are treated, and the current shift in attitude in this country against gay marriage, is that the justification for the hatred is almost always seated in religion.
I'm an intelligent person. But I cannot find how judgment of another, disowning a child, discrimination and hatred, how any of that could ever be seen as something sanctioned by god. Jesus was a man of kindness and welcoming. Of love and understanding. I just don't see the logical connection.
It frustrates me to no end to see such judgment by people. No one is perfect. No one is without flaw. And none of us is fit to decide how others should live their lives.
All men are created equal.
Let's live up to that.
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