Friday, May 22, 2009

Adapt

There has been more than a little drama at the kid's school this year. There have been funding shortfalls, teachers let go, bond measures passed and new teacher hirings. There have been several teachers out for extended periods for personal and family reasons. There must be something in the water at school with how often the teachers are out for maternity leave.

All of these cause the same issue to arise. The kids have to deal with the fact that their teacher might be gone. Maybe for good, maybe for a little while. It might mean that they move to a new classroom. It might mean that they get extra kids in theirs. There are few classes this year that escaped some kind of staffing change.

The biggest moves of the year occurred because of lower enrollment than projected, which led to the release of one teacher and restructuring the classrooms. When the bonds were passed, the school regained funding for that position and the classes were put back the way they began the year. While these changes were less than ideal in my opinion, they were done in the best way possible.

The kids, for the most part, were fine. Aidan's class picked up 6 kids for half the year, then lost them. A few days of adjusting, shuffling desks a little, adding names to the cubbies. Kids adapt, it's just in their nature to do so.

The problem was with the parents. Some of the parents couldn't change. They fought tooth and nail against the move back to the original classrooms. They couldn't comprehend the benefit of smaller class sizes. They didn't understand that the administration needed to best serve the needs of all the children, not cater to the desires of a handful of parents.

As parents, I think that we need to teach our children important lessons. Lessons like life isn't fair. You can't always get what you want. Sometimes you have to take lemons and make lemonade. Change is inevitable. What kind of message are the parents who fought the change sending to their children?

Our society is unfortunately filled with people like this. The ones that truly believe that their needs are superior to the needs of others. That other people are supposed to change for them, and they need not change for others. By raising their children to be the same way, they are perpetuating this selfishness. Ensuring that their kids will grow up with a sense of entitlement. An inability to deal with the harsh realities of life.

I hope that my kids will someday understand why I don't always go to bat for them. Why I won't fight their battles all the time. Why sometimes they will just have to learn to deal with a difficult situation. It's important that kids learn to adapt. It's important that kids learn to handle change, because change is one of the constants in life. And it's important that we teach them to do so.

No comments:

Post a Comment

Some of My Most Popular Posts